Wednesday, December 06, 2006



My Christmas

Christmas season is here! During this Yule season people start preparing for the celebration since Thanksgiving including me. For this year the day falls on Monday which I think is fortunate as we all get a long weekend being together with our families and get some time to relax at home or go traveling to somewhere that has been planned earlier.

My family's celebration of Christmas is amazing and 'remarkable'. It's all about reunion, food and gifts. It might sound boring to some people but to me, it is something that I look forward to it ecstatically every year. It is my most favorite celebration of the year. Christmas brings a lot of meaning to our family. Being brought up in a Christian family and church, we had already been told about the real and important religious meaning behind the celebration of Christmas when we were little. It's the day when little Jesus Christ was born to Mary at that night in a manger in Bethlehem. This true meaning has always been remembered by our family but for a lot of people, it has been forgotten over the years.

I remember when I was little, we would decorate our Christmas tree on the first day of December. We have a reusable tree, every year we would use the same tree and same ornaments. The only thing we had changed a few times was the lights. People believe this tree is green all year round and it's the easiest tree to find during winter time. It symbolizes the eternal and never changing love of Jesus Christ. The scent of the real trees definitely brings the 'holiday scent' to families. It's one of the essential things to have during Christmas to bring up the spirit at home.

Every year before Christmas, we would start shopping for Christmas presents for every member in our family. Some of my sisters who worked out of town would bring the presents back usually two to three days before Christmas and put all of them under the Christmas tree. As a kid, I enjoyed myself looking for presents under the tree that have my name written on them. I would spend my time doing that over and over again as I couldn't wait to open them up. I always believed the biggest box was the best present when I was little but this belief had changed when I grew up later. Not everything big is always good. As usual, my mom would be the cook of our Christmas feast which usually took place on the Christmas Eve. Some of the times we would have turkey and ginger house, but most of the times we would have roast chicken, some western inspired food and some Chinese food.

After dinner, my sisters and I would go to church and join the caroling group. The caroling group would visit to our church members' houses and sing some beautiful Christmas carols loudly and then say prayers for the families. We definitely brought the Christmas spirits to the atmosphere at my hometown. When people hear us, they would know Christmas is here. At that time, we were like performers where everyone would wait for us and some kids would wait outside the house to get sweets from Santa that came along with us. We would sing joyfully while walking toward the house. Once we finished our task of the night, we would go home as soon as we could to open the gifts together with our family. That was the happiest time we anticipated every year. Most of the time I would receive some clothing where I would wear them on the next day to the church, on the Christmas day. I usually received about eight or more presents and that was a lot!

I used to go to Sunday school when I was little. On Christmas day, our church would give away presents to students that have a good attendance rate and good scores on examinations. That was the time we could make our parents proud as the announcer would call out our names loud. It was a small church where everybody knows each other every well. At the end of the worship, all the kids would go up onto the stage and sing. The Santa Clause would then come in and go to the stage to give each of us sweets and cookies. Every kid loved this! Adults have gifts too, each of them would receive a simple gift such as a nice hand towel or soaps before we left.

I still miss my childhood Christmas. Until this day, my families still continue our traditional way of Christmas celebration. Even though I am apart from them, I still carry the same tradition in my family with my husband and our dog. It brings a warm, calm and peaceful feeling to my heart. No matter where we are, we should never forget the true meaning and value of Christmas. It is also a precious time to be with family and friends.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Friday, December 01, 2006

忍耐乃成功之父

如果失败乃成功之母,那我认为忍耐乃成功之父。为什么我会这样认为呢? 那是因为失败、忍耐与成功都互相牵连着,都是每一件事必经的过程。这三个因素足以决定一切事情的结果,也是成功必须具备的条件。

脾气暴躁和急性子的人天生就缺乏忍耐力,往往因为一时的冲动而破坏了整个事情的进展,甚至错过很多美好的机会,和成功结不了缘。我在想,以前的人比我们好多了,因为什么都慢,生活脚步慢,时间也似乎比我们过得慢。因为没有什么高科技,所以没有微波炉,没有快件,没有internet 也没有遥控器。烧饭做菜还要先起火,收信送信还要等上好几个礼拜甚至好几个月,找资料还要到图书馆去读遍所有的书也不一定找到,开电视、换台、开空调、风扇甚至开门都必须走靠近去按钮。他们都已经习惯了这样子的生活,哪像我们都被周围的高科技给宠坏,已经无法慢下脚步来了。


你可能会问,那快或慢和成功有什么关系呢? 如果你真的想深一层,你就会了解忍耐就是懂得什么时候煞车,什么时候慢下脚步,什么时候使用cruise control,还有什么时候倒车。成功的这条路,就只有了解忍耐的司机才能够顺利地到达目的地。因为我们很少一路顺风,这一路上可能非常坎坷、荆棘和塞车,只有靠着忍耐才能成功的走过。


出来社会之后才更加了解忍耐的重要性,如果一不小心说错话或做错事,严重的话可能会失去一份工作或是失去一些朋友和同事。很多人在同一家公司工作久了就会觉得沉闷、受不了还有工作压力太大,就算工钱甚少也必须忍耐地做下去,为的就是要供车供楼还有为三餐。如果忍耐地继续做下去的话,很可能还会被升级呢。如果动不动就辞职不干,那到什么时候才能成功呢? 当然每个人成功的定义都不同,可能转换工作环境或是路线会带来你要的成功的话,那当然就应该勇敢去做。不管怎样做都好,如果没有一点的忍耐心,怎么做都无法成功。这时候就是使用cruise control 的时候了,让车子随着时间一直开过去直到到达目的地为止。但如果半路上遇到捷径,那就应该马上煞车沿着这条捷径开去。如果开过头了,那就倒车再回头吧。


一段婚姻和一段男女关系,如果不懂得忍耐的话会很容易引起不必要的争吵。最可怕的是导致离婚或是分手的下场。我最近才跟我老公说,你的坏脾气改了很多,但是你很多时候会忘了怎样停慢脚步,有耐性的停下来好好说话解释。我说,很多人认为别人看到的,了解的都跟自己一样,认为不说的话对方也会明白。可是不是每一个人都和我们一样在行,或是和我们想的一致,如果没有加以解释的话,对方是无法明白。如果多问几句的话,可能会被挨骂,甚至引起争吵。 我们很多时候认为,一个常常问问题的伴侣,会令人觉得很不耐烦,尤其是当我们正在忙着的时候、投入的时候或是很累的时候会更加难忍。因为一个无知,关心我们的人,因为想了解更多,想分享我们做的一些事情而被挨骂,是多么无辜可怜啊! 这不单单发生在夫妻与情侣之间,父母亲和家人也一样,通常和我们至亲的人,我们都特别没耐性。俗语都说,忍一时风平浪静,退一步海阔天空。


想要有成功的事业,必须具备的就是忍耐。想要有一段美好的婚姻,也要懂得什么时候忍耐。要成功达到人缘好的话,就要学习怎样忍耐,不和别人争吵。如果想要在美国得到绿卡,最重要的就是忍耐,不单在工作上,还要在金钱和时间上,是个很大的考验。

你说,忍耐是不是成功之父?